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We're on the fence about having a second child. Anybody with siblings think they'd have been happier as an only child?? Any only children who really wish they had siblings?
17 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]i am a happy only. never wanted a sib and stil dont. (i have steps but i barely know them.) FWIW i have two kids but one would have been fine.
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I say that my younger brother ruined my life. But truthfully, I'm happy I have sibling. DH & I were on the fence for 2 years before we decided to have #2. It was hard having 2. But watching our 2 kids together, even when they're fighting over a toy ... it's totally worth it.
[ Reply | Options ]I was raised as an only because my brother & sister are so much older. I think it would have been really healthy for me to have been at home w/ a sibling or two. I turned out fine, but I am somewhat self-centered. Also, my parents had a rough patch when I was young and my mom used me as her confidante and treated me like a mini-adult--not healthy, imo. I think that would be less likely w/ siblings around. Now my big sister and (17 year difference) are super, super close. But it would be nice to be closer in age. My kids are 3.5 years apart and are really growing in their relationship and learning a lot of from each other--it's awesome.
[ Reply | Options ]i think it's sweet that you are asking this question, because it's clear you are looking at it from the point of view of your child's well being. think a bit about what it means for your life and your husband's life too, of course, and then you'll figure it out. these personal decisions are really hard. don't let anyone sway you because of their own baggage, though. everyone is different and there is no way to tell what the future holds.
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we are in the process of adopting dc #2, after 10 years of having an only child. Lot's of pros and cons, agree that only you can make the choice. BTW - dc#1 is dying to have a sibling but that is no guarantee that he will feel the same way when dc#2 arrives. I am close to my siblings, my husband barely speaks to his. You never know.
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My older brother made my life so much better overall. I would be so bored all the time if it weren't for him. He got me into my hobbies and passions, he taught me so much about the world that my parents wouldn't have. I wish I had more siblings, and I could not image life without any.
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